If you’ve just learned your partner is facing an unplanned pregnancy, you might be experiencing a whirlwind of emotions such as uncertainty, concern, maybe even disbelief. That’s okay. You’re not expected to have all the answers right now.
What matters most is taking a step forward. There are ways you can be involved, supportive, and steady—even in the middle of the unknown.
Process Your Emotions
Finding out about a pregnancy may come as a shock, and it’s normal to have mixed feelings. Fear, confusion, and even glimmers of hope can all surface at once. Take a second to pause and reflect on your emotions. This is a major moment, and your response matters.
Share how you’re feeling with your partner in a calm, honest way, and give her space to share her thoughts as well. Respectful communication builds trust and allows both of you to move forward with mutual understanding.
Be Present and Involved
Even if the news wasn’t what you expected, your presence matters now more than ever. Supporting your partner doesn’t mean having all the solutions—it means standing by her as she works through her options.
- Learn together: Whether she’s considering parenting, adoption, or abortion, encourage open conversations about each path. Help her research and ask questions so you both feel educated and prepared.
- Show up: Be there for her, whether it’s a medical visit or a simple errand. Your active role sends a powerful message that she’s not alone in this process.
- Stay patient: Let her work through her thoughts at her own pace. Your steady, nonjudgmental support can help her feel safe and cared for.
- Be a rock: This is an emotional time for you, no doubt, but try to keep a level head and be strong for your partner, who is going through not only emotional changes but also physical ones. You can be her source of strength.
Don’t Forget About Your Own Support
This situation affects you, too. Having a safe space to talk through your thoughts can make a big difference. At the Pregnancy Care Center, we understand that men need support, answers, and encouragement just as much as women do.
We offer free and confidential services and resources to help you and your partner process and move forward positively.
Contact us to make an appointment today. We’re in this together.
*The Pregnancy Care Center does not perform or refer for abortions.
**We offer accurate information about all your pregnancy options; however, we do not offer or refer for abortion services. The information presented on this website is intended for general education purposes only and should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional and/or medical advice.